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heatvents asked: Hello Kate, kinda random, but I was curious how you felt about people recognizing/approaching you to say hello in a non-con, non-comic environment? I ask because I've seen comic industry folk at bars and such after a con and always felt they were kinda "off duty" and decided to just let them be. I'm not asking you to speak for all industry people, but I'd like to get your opinion on the matter. Thanks, and I hope to see you at Emerald City again next year!


Hey! Okay. So let me preface this by saying this is just MY experience and preferences, and not everyone’s.

Here are the things it feels okay to do, when you see someone you admire in a social setting:

  • Walk up and introduce yourself, briefly, and say something nice like “Hey, I don’t mean to bother you, but I’m ________. I really love your comics.” In most situations, the person will say something like, “Oh, thank you so much!” If they respond and seem open to conversation, continue. If they seem busy or not in a good headspace, you can always say something like “That’s all, just wanted to say hi.” Nice. Simple!
  • Ask “Excuse me, are you _______?” If they say yes, and seem open to conversation, go from there. But, again, keep it simple. “I’m a big fan,” or “I loved your book,” or “I read your blog,” etc.
  • "Hey, _______? You’re awesome, just wanted to say hi." Short, sweet, leaves the possibility for conversation but also a polite cut-off if it’s a bad time.

Things it is not okay to do:

  • Insert yourself into a private conversation when you do not know any of the participants in it.
  • Watch someone from across the room/bus/shop and tweet at them that you’re in the same room/bus/shop as them. I can’t stress enough how creepy it is to pick up my phone with a notification like “oh my god @kateleth is sitting right across from me” and then look up to see someone holding a phone and staring at me. It’s so weird! Don’t do that! Where do I go from there? People tell me all the time that it’s okay to do this because they have anxiety, but if it causes ME anxiety, that doesn’t seem like a reasonable excuse. I would way prefer you just say hello in real life.
  • Rush someone when they’re eating. Especially if they’re alone. Eating is a sacred, private time, moreso at shows. Peeing and eating are, for me, are the only real moments at conventions or signings where I get to just relax and not be trying to impress anyone.
  • Corner someone and talk AT them for extended periods of time, especially when they put up walls or seem uncomfortable.

Just use common sense, really. Meeting a fan or even someone just aware of your work means you have to be “on,” so to speak, and some days you just got dumped or your bus was late or your grandma’s sick and you can’t be your best self. I’ve been short with people who’ve overstepped boundaries, I’ve been short with perfectly wonderful people because I was having an awful day. More often than not, I like to think I’m pretty nice.

I know there are plenty of reasons for people to be bad at reading body language or signals, but the best course of action is brevity and politeness. It’s scary, and I get that, but we’re all just people. 99% of the time I’m thrilled to be approached or recognized at all, haha.

“You should be angry. You must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn’t do anything to the object of its displeasure. So use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it. You talk it. Never stop talking it.”

Maya Angelou in a 2006 talk with Dave Chappelle on the Sundance Channel’s Iconoclasts series.

Here’s video.

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i bought this bonsai tree growing kit for three dollars and i know nothing will probably grow, but who could beat that price, right? after i soak the seed pod for 24 hours i have to keep it in the fridge for three months to trick it into thinking winter has passed. it’s probably the biggest prank i’ll ever pull on a seed. like psych, buddy, you thought winter was over? that was the god damn crisper drawer oh shiiit.


We’re headed to PAX Prime!

Where we’ll be: Our space is inside the ACT theatre connected to the convention center. Room hours are 10:00 AM to 5:30 PM. We’ll sell & sign you stuff, and maybe even have some surprises for you if you ask nicely. We’re also really excited to share the room with some of our friends:

Our panel: We’ll humor your crappy card suggestions. Friday at 8:00 PM in the Sasquatch Theater.

Our comedy show: We’re hosting a night of comedy humor jokes with the Nerdologues, Improvised Star Trek and some surprise guests. Saturday at 8:00PM at The Triple Door. Doors open at 6:30PM. A few tickets might still be available here.

See you soon, Seattle.

come hang out with me! this is where i’ll be, generally.


Funny, I think of the corpse of an unarmed teenager lying facedown on hot asphalt for several hours.


Funny, I think of the corpse of an unarmed teenager lying facedown on hot asphalt for several hours.

“And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times.”

Wait But Why - How to Pick Your Life Partner (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)